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My Friend Didn’t Like Online Dating
Here’s why.
Last week, I was out with friends for a quick get together. We were chatting while drinking beer, and one of my friends mentioned his friend, who recently got together with someone he met from an online dating app. It made him keen to try out online dating. Though, the more we talked about it, the more he backed away from his initial thought.
While not articulated, I could feel a great wave of inertia and resistance from him surrounding the idea of online dating.
In the end, my friend decided he didn’t want to try online dating and he would rather check out sites for meeting friends, and only friends, first. While I felt there was more to the decision than was laid out on the table, I respected his choice and didn’t press on any further.
Now, if you were wondering if I did anything to dissuade my friend from using dating apps, I didn’t. In fact, I was totally supporting and encouraging him about it. In fact, I did try it several times.
He didn’t explain his sudden change of heart, but I suspected it was partly because of the way online dating tends to be viewed: with great disdain and aversion.
I guess there are just very heavy stigmas surrounding modern channels of dating in our society, despite the fact that we live in the digital era.