9 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Wife Material
Ever since I was a little boy, I used to imagine what my wife would be like. I made a list: pretty, smart, tall, sexy, skinny built. The list went on and on.
The truth is, I didn’t know what was important in a wife. I dated several women that satisfied all of my requirements. Yet, I did not want to marry them. Gradually, I started cluing into what really matters.
I have been married for almost five years, and last year my wife and I went through a rough patch. But, since I married a woman who is “real wife material,” we were able to work through our difficulties and come out the other end a stronger couple than ever before.
Let me start by saying that I’m not here to give phony advice about how to find a princess and live happily ever after. I want to share something more realistic with you: how to find a woman who will be there for you through the good times, and the bad.
At the beginning of relationships, women tend to be very romantic. Some early signs that may look great, such as seemingly endless compliments and gifts, usually taper off with time. I’m going to focus on telling you about signs that should be there even after you have been together for years. I also chose concrete signs that are easy to notice:
1. She believes in you
It makes a huge difference whether she believes in you. Since you will likely spend more time with your wife than any other person, how she views you is bound to rub off on you.
Whenever I go for a job interview or an audition, Berna is always sure that I will get it. Of course, it doesn’t always work out like this, but having a supportive spouse has really helped me believe in myself more. At the very least, such a partner will not hurt your self-image.
It is also great if she encourages you to pursue your dreams, or at the very least does not stand in your way. Too often, our spouse is the main person standing between us and our passion in life. Choose one who helps you become all that you can be by believing in you.
2. She doesn’t sweat the small stuff
Does she get frustrated if you leave the milk out of the fridge? Does she get very upset if you are 10 minutes late? Does she yell at you if misplace the remote?
At times, life can be difficult. There is no point in marrying someone who will make it more difficult. Plus, we all make mistakes. But, if your every move seems like a mistake, and he is constantly on your case, then he probably is not real husband material.
3. You can tell her anything
You should never have to worry about whether or not to say something. There is a fantastic expression that captures when you should end a relationship; it’s when you feel like “you are walking on eggshells.” If you have to watch everything that you say or do for fear of aggravating your partner, it won’t work out.
You have the right to be yourself and speak your mind freely. If she is the right wife for you, she will like you just the way you are. She will make you feel comfortable and safe to express your innermost thoughts and feelings. Such guys make for lifelong partners.
4. She does the dishes
Life is not a picnic, and men today need women who are real partners. The little things do matter — and they do add up, especially over a lifelong marriage!
Does she do her fair share? Does she do the dishes, cook, and clean about half the time? Just because you are a woman, it doesn’t mean that you should be doing more of the housework.
If you are living together and she doesn’t help around the house, then she almost certainly won’t start after you get married. If and when you have children, the amount of housework will only get worse. Then, you will appreciate a wife who does her fair share.
5. She gives you space
This one may sound a little counter-intuitive, but I believe that it’s very important that she gives you space. You shouldn’t have to negotiate to get a night out with your friends or go to see your mom. At the end of the day, the rest of your life also matters, and regardless of how great your time is together, it’s important that she doesn’t make it difficult for you to enjoy other parts of your life.
6. She takes you seriously
If you are driving together on the highway and you ask for a coffee, she gets off at the next exit. She doesn’t assume that what you want is not important. She takes your needs, and you, seriously.
Whether the subject is what color tablecloth to buy, or whether you should move to a different continent, a wife material woman will take your views and opinions seriously.
7. She doesn’t notice other men
The last thing you want is a wife who is always looking in the other direction. Find a loyal woman. Not all women seem to have the capacity to ignore other men. But these women do exist.
Now, this doesn’t mean that your wife needs to literally ignore men. It’s just that she shouldn’t relate to these men in a way that suggests attraction.
8. She stands on her own feet
There is a growing trend of women supporting their men. While it’s nice that men today are capable of taking care of not only themselves but also their families, it is a lot easier if you both help out.
But even more importantly, couples, where both partners are independent, are happier. Being overly dependent on each other leads to resentment, and eventually drains the relationship between romantic love and passion.
The best kind of wives are women who are independent both financially and emotionally. They could be happy all by themselves if they had to. Such a woman chooses to be with you freely; not because she needs to be with you, but because she wants to.
9. You set the pace
Nothing shows that a woman is real wife material like patience. Whether it is about waiting to move in together because you want some space or waiting for marriage before getting intimate, the right woman for you will respect whatever pace you set. She won’t push you, manipulate you, or try to guilt you into changing your mind.
On the other hand, you should not find yourself trying to convince her to move things forward.
We find ourselves just dying to marry women who don’t seem to be too excited about marrying us. If this is the case for you, then you might already know in your heart that this is not a good idea. If she already has doubts, how can you be sure that he will be there for you for the rest of your life? And I definitely don’t recommend trying to force her into marriage!