7 Despicable Characteristics of a Loser
And surprisingly, these are very common struggles people have.
Let’s face it, there are many losers in this world.
The sad fact is that these people are not aware that they are.
While stepping above failure is a prerequisite of success, wallowing in it makes one a loser. Everywhere we can see people putting much premium on their ignorance rather than advancing themselves through self-analysis and action. Instead of making an effort to zeroing in on the causes of their lack, they prefer to be adamant in denying any responsibility for their unfortunate circumstance.
Perhaps you are not aware that you possess the characteristics of a loser. In your effort to make your life worthwhile, you aspire for things that will enhance your well-being. The problem though is that something within yourself is preventing you from attaining the life you aspire.
Consider the following crippling traits that you may be harboring, and do your best to recognize and emancipate from them:
Fear of being vulnerable
Part of any pursuance for achievement is to let ourselves open to our vulnerabilities. This means allowing ourselves the experience of defeat, pain, heartbreak, embarrassment, and any other uncomfortable circumstances we would rather not want to experience.
Even a child learning to walk would need to fall many times before it succeeds in its endeavor. Without allowing ourselves to experience any fall, we won’t acquire the needed strength to make us grow and achieve anything we want in life.
If we deny ourselves the stress of facing our own vulnerabilities, we will only tend to preserve our weakness, and such weakness will be our handicap in making any real achievement in life.
Slave to the expectations of others
All of us want to fit in, but most of the time this does more harm than good.
In our effort to find a sense of belonging, we have stifled the expression of our own authenticity. As a consequence, we become slaves to the expectations of others.
Our inherent nature for creativity and boldness has been stunted because we’ve concerned ourselves too much with what others would say. A perfect example of this is peer pressure. Instead of alleviating our well being, we pattern our actions according to the mainstream norms of the people around us.
No wonder few are exceptional in this world because few are those who dare to go against the conventional flow. If we truly want to make a difference in our lives we must learn to stand on our own and not be swayed by the mere opinion of others. A loser tends to hide on a flock, it is not aware of its own independence.
Stubborn adherence to false beliefs
One of the most defeating habit most of us embrace is our stubborn adherence to belief systems that serves no other purpose than to prevent us from expanding our horizons. It is ironic that despite man’s possession of intellect and free, he prefers to be meek when it comes to questioning the beliefs that have been indoctrinated unto him. As a result, he is drawn downward further into ignorance.
The fear of challenging our beliefs has somehow crippled us in terms of broadening our understanding. Without any effort on our part to be cynical about the validity of certain beliefs that affect our lives, we could find ourselves on the wrong path.
It is rather foolish to believe that something is impossible rather than believing it is. This advanced world we are living could not have been had the inventors and entrepreneurs — both past and present — satisfied themselves with the general belief of impossibility.
Habitually pessimistic
The greatest killer of any creative manifestation is pessimism. This attitude discourages any opportunity of making an effort toward certain endeavors. It prefers to look at the downside of something rather than its positive aspect. This typical characteristic of a loser inhibits itself from any productive endeavor. While everything around him changes, he continues to be sluggish. In the long run, he curses life for all of his miseries.
Mistrust of one’s own capability
There’s no betray greater one can impose upon himself than the lack of trust in one’s own capability. A loser has no faith in his abilities; he measures himself according to the achievement of others and never tries to make an effort in exploring his own special gift.
It is unfortunate that most people tend to envy the achievement of others while downgrading their own. They tend to believe that there’s an unequal distribution of individual capabilities and there are those who are gifted.
No offense, but there are no such things as a gifted person. Convention has recognized certain skills as ideal, and as such we put much premium on those capabilities as if they are the only admirable capabilities one may possess.
The great people of this world have become who they are because they have never doubted themselves. Each of us holds the power to do great things, don’t be a loser and waste the opportunity.
Closed-minded
Nothing’s more annoying than dealing with a closed-minded person. No matter how much sense and logic we try to impart, they are somehow gifted with stubbornness. There are many agents that caused a person to be closed-minded: it could be their pride, arrogance, painful past experience, ignorance, or plain stupidity.
Let us be careful not to limit our minds according to our own limited understanding. We need to accept the fact that our knowledge will not always be enough and that we need to learn to open ourselves to higher understanding. No improvement will come to a person who has walled himself to logic and reason; his bigotry will be the cause of his own misery.
Cowardice
I find this to be the most despicable characteristic of a loser. Without a doubt, no achievement can be expected from a person who doesn’t have the courage to face any form of difficulties. Even unto himself he cannot stand on his own, he always bends at the will of others and possesses no firmness of integrity. In this competitive world, the coward will always find itself in a life of squalor.
Being a loser is not an ideal condition of existence. Man has been bestowed with the power to influence everything in this world and it is a great waste if we don’t use such gifts. But it is the first mission of man to know his weakness before he can realize his strength.
